Brutal Truths

When a Wife Walks Away

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 16:23:26 GMT

When a wife decides that the societal, familial or religious pressures are too much and that she needs to leave, her leaving is a very painful experience especially if she has children with the husband or she even brought children in with her to the marriage that the adults loved and parented. Any children will feel the absence of these other children and the mom they grew to love. The husband and wife/ves left behind will feel as if their hearts were ripped apart.

Unlike in a...

Question!

feeds@yuku.com (ali83) — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 08:59:59 GMT

So, I've asked several people this question already but I've decided to open it up to the board. It's something that ever poly family/couple/single anyone entering poly had asked themselves at one point or another. But I guess I'm especially curious to those who live it, and deal with it on a daily basis. So here it is.

When you're out let say anywhere, at the grocery store... and you're all shopping together and you run into someone (maybe just an...

You will face your fears

feeds@yuku.com (IsaBear) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 09:28:51 GMT

I wanted to post here, because this is the most important lesson I've learned in going through dating someone and things not working out like I thought they would and trying to find closure. You will face all of the fears you have left in your closet. I mean, stuff has come up for me all through this adventure, and it's kind of surprised me how much old baggage I had in there that still needed to be worked on! Lots of stuff about my mother, and old patterns in my life that I thought...

Emotional Literacy: it's Essential!

feeds@yuku.com (Deorccwen) — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 17:18:43 GMT

Something that's fairly common in Western cultures is the assumption that women are supposed to do all the emotional housework in a relationship. A woman is supposed to be understanding, recognise what the heart of the issue is in an argument and be able to fix all emotional problems, even if the man in her life is emotionally illiterate.

http://goodmourningelizabeth.blogspot.com/2009/06/straight-woman-in-polygamous-marriage.html

Around the Law???

feeds@yuku.com (deeteeZA) — Sun, 03 May 2009 08:45:13 GMT

Hi,

I hope this idea can perhaps give some of you a new way of trying to live your lives in peace from the authorities. Here in South Africa, we also have laws against bigamy, but at the same time two sets of marriage laws (one for whites (monogamy only), and one for blacks - or as the law itself states "indigenous african", which recognises polygamy as a "tribal tradition"). Recently a muslim challenged the constitutionality of this, and a high court ruling...

Not scared. But is it wrong to be cautious?

feeds@yuku.com (jerrellz) — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:24:52 GMT

The one thing that really worries me is the laws in Washington State. I have no idea what they are. I don't know how to ask or find out without drawing the wrong attention. I have seen and heard about people being arrested for having more than one wife and more than one marriage lisence, etc. I'm just wondering how the legal aspect works?! My wife and I have a potential second wife that we've been talking to for about a month now. She's great! But I don't want to scare her...

Not scared. But is it wrong to be cautious?

feeds@yuku.com (jerrellz) — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:24:51 GMT

What are the dynamics in poly reality?

feeds@yuku.com (DreamGyrl360) — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 08:37:31 GMT

At some point in your relationship, an argument will ensue between husband and wife.
How does poly change the way in which that argument would play out, versus monogamy?

My husband and I were analyzing, trying to figure it out. Of course we've seen Big Love and whatnot but we know that's just television.

If we're arguing and it gets serious and heated -- if say, he calls me a vile word or something, or perhaps I proceed into a tirade of profane language...

a brutal truth, lack of knowledge and money

feeds@yuku.com (isabearGA) — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 19:21:12 GMT

I hope this is an ok place to post this. I have been reading a little on the site and really learning a lot. I do understand some of the brutal truths like laws, ex's bent on making life miserable and relationships that fail. I've been thinking about things that could come up in our life if we were to find someone to be a SW.... One is being able to AFFORD another person in our lives since we live on a very small income. Seems that the SW would almost need to have a career, or want...

Don't pass up this brutal truth!!!

feeds@yuku.com (libraleo) — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 18:27:10 GMT

Please read what I am sending you very very carefully. This might be something that could save you a LOT of:

Embarrassment, confussion, heartaches, lawyer fees, court costs, a jail sentence, marriages, your children, your livelihood and a whole lot of other things.

Google...

How many is too many?

feeds@yuku.com (carol) — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 10:04:51 GMT

While reading the news about the men arrested in Canada, one report said one of the men had over 20 wives. Honestly my first reaction was "What does a man need over 20 wives for?". The idea of that many wives made me personally feel very uncomfortable.

My intention is not to talk about the legal and religious topics of this man's situation.

Instead my question is - How many wives is too many for you?