Ethical Scenarios

Different religions

feeds@yuku.com (DreamGyrl360) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 10:42:47 GMT

A family has very orthodox religious beliefs/observances. The husband starts to court a woman who is not of the same religious beliefs. While they all like her, the wives are concerned that the potential *may* not want to do all the things they do, spiritually. What, if anything, could that do to a family unit, if everyone else is participating in something but the other wife is off doing her own thing?

How would you feel if you were one of the existing wives and this woman may not...

Debachery...

feeds@yuku.com (DreamGyrl360) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 11:14:52 GMT

This woman is dating her deceased father's best friend. Who is an old man, FYI.
This woman hit on the man's daughter.
This woman hit on the man's daughter's fiance.
(!!!)
This woman's life is based on bad decisions.
Her sisters' lives too.

Should the daughter tell the father?
The father really likes the woman.

what to do

feeds@yuku.com (Jerem) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 20:04:06 GMT

here is a situation that has come up very recently. A very good friend of yours divorces her husband because or severe spousal abuse. The ex was interested in poly before, however now he says that if she marries a couple he will take the kids. they have joint custody at the moment. The friend has been bouncing between relationships, always seeming to pick "winners" all of whom turn mentally abusive. the latest, whom she is with now, got her pregnant and then told her that he was...

An extremely difficult dilemma

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 04:26:37 GMT

The ex-husband of your esposa (second wife/sisterwife) won custody of her children due to the fact that she lives polygamously. A few years later, the children feel depressed because their dad and step-mom abuses them: mentally and physically. They cry for you to save them from their demise. As a family, you know you need to help them, so you retain a lawyer. You sue him for custody of these children on two basis: the abuse and they are old enough to make that decision. This lawsuit takes...

Something Unique?

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 03:59:24 GMT

A poly family consisting of two wives and one husband just marries their third wife. Everyone, including the children, loves and adores the new wife.

The new wife brings up a question to hubby, and he is unsure how to answer. He, then, decides to ask his other wives what they think of her question, and if they believe this is even something that is possible? The new wife asks, "Is there anything that we will be able to do with one another that will be totally unique to us...

What should they do

feeds@yuku.com (MaryGreen) — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 08:47:20 GMT

A poly family consists of a husband and two wives. The two wives are bisexual. They share the same bed with their husband and have physical relationship with each other. All the individuals in this marriage have agreed that there is room in the family to bring another wife. So they start looking for a potential wife. The two wives meet a woman, who is also bisexual, and they liked her very much. They felt that they could get along nicely if this new woman joins their family as a third wife....

What is your opinion on this

feeds@yuku.com (MaryGreen) — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 06:35:44 GMT

A poly family consists of husband, 44 years old, and two wives 46 and 48. This is a family where the wives believe that one of the most important responsibility of wife is to bring new life on this earth and to expand the family in this manner. Both the wives have crossed their child bearing age. So they agree to have another wife in the family who would be willing to bear child from their husband. After a lot of search, they finally find a woman of 24 years of age who would be willing to...

Running the Family Budget

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 20:03:13 GMT

A forth wife joins a poly family of 15 years. During this 15 years, the husband ran the budget and the finances, not because he was the husband, but because the wives felt he could do it more efficiently. His budgets have worked effectively for 15 years, and he even made adjustments when necessary. Their bills were always paid. They always had food on the table and then some. They could always see the doctor and buy medications when necessary. They had an entertainment fund as well for...

A horrible, terrible, no good, very bad choice!

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 15:49:02 GMT

You are the second wife out of three in a poly family. You have two other children from a previous marriage to a highly abusive man. In the past, he also abused your two children you had when you were married to him.

You find out you are pregnant with you poly husband's baby. You are elated. Later, about a month away from your due date, you grow worried because you almost died the last time you gave birth, and there is a huge possibility this could happen again. You are not...

Tug-of-War

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:10:03 GMT

A poly family with three wives, a husband, and 9 children struggle to keep the third wife from leaving because she constantly threatens to leave everytime there is a disagreement. She was a single mom of three children for over 4 years before she entered the marriage. She was use to making all the decision and handling all the finances. She could do whatever she wanted and whenever. Once she joined a poly family, things changed. She was part of a family unit. Everyone made decisions...

Sex With A Potential and Pregnancy

feeds@yuku.com (Antony) — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 01:48:06 GMT

Here's the situation:

A poly family believes that sex before marriage is okay. The potential is open to sex as well. They are courting a potential and reach the stage where she visits them. The Femme is stull unsure about poly and the potential and hopes the visit will help clarify her thoughts. During the course of the visit, they mutally agree to have sex and the protection is ineffective. The potential ends up pregnant. She tells the family that this does not mean...

Patriarchy or Chauvinism

feeds@yuku.com (Jgirl412) — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:09:08 GMT

Hi everyone! I have seen quite a few poly websites since jumping on the bandwagon,but there are some that have very different ideas about polygamy,some that I don't neccesarily agree with.This is a letter I sent to the moderator of such a site.Not naming names,but some of you may know who it is.Read and discuss your ideas if you like.

Patriarchy or Chauvinism?

I am new to the idea of polygamy,and my husband is...

Long Distance Love

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 17:45:56 GMT

A husband and two wives were not looking for another woman; however, they chatted daily in the SisterWives chattroom. Eventually, this one woman catches their attention. They begin talking with her on Yahoo as well. Just as friends though. However, they find themselves beginning to think about this woman all the time. They care for her deeply. They find themselves shocked. What happened? They ask themselves.

One night after many talks over the phone, texting, chatting, and...

Get together

feeds@yuku.com (jaca6969) — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 16:50:31 GMT

I dont know about most of you but I would love to hang out with more Poly Minded people or atleast put a face to names. I know most of us have to hide our relationship from Jonny Public. Wouldnt it be great if we could all get together for like a Giant Pot luck style BBQ or something like that. there would be great conversation with like minded people good food. A chance to meet one another. This is a thought I dont know how every one feels about it. Please leave your comments and lets see...

Husband passes away

feeds@yuku.com (Bud) — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 01:43:44 GMT

Wives....your husband quite unexpectedly has a fatal heart attack and passes away.

Do you stay together as a family?

How do you run your household (fill his shoes)

Do you consider seeking another husband together?

Do you split and eventually seek other husbands?

Has anyone experienced this or something similar?

She Came Back

feeds@yuku.com (rubyroses716) — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 08:47:51 GMT

Here is a scenario that came to mind one day:

A family with three wives is courting a potential for a year. Everything is going so wonderful and the family knows that she was meant to be married to them.
At the beginning of their courtship, the potential learns that this family had a 4th wife 5 years ago, and she had decided to leave. This wife was married to them for 4 years, but decided to leave 5 years ago.

The family asks to marry the potential and she is...

Roommate or Wife

feeds@yuku.com (SteadFastLove) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 11:10:50 GMT

A family with one husband and 3 wives falls for another woman. They marry her, and she is the fourth wife. They have 12 children, and she brought in 4 of those 12 children from a previous marriage that ended because her husband left her for another woman.

This family and she have been married for one year now. During this year, she has only agreed to having sex with hubby has been 6 times. He speaks to her about this in a loving manner because he really desires to be with...

Other families contacting your potential

feeds@yuku.com (noniemurphy) — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 09:45:17 GMT

Granted I totally agree that until the vows are said and everyones agrees to be together for ever, that a single woman dating a family is a free agent. I also totally agree that the single ladies should date several families to really find the family that is right for them.

Here is what I dont agree with.....

If you know the potential you have been "talking with" is visiting another family right at the moment be respectful and do not obsessivly contact her. I...

Family Reunion!!

feeds@yuku.com (DreamGyrl360) — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 19:50:09 GMT

Okay. Everybody knows I don't have a sw anywhere in the making (KEEP PRAYING lol).
But I do have to show my face at a family reunion this weekend.
That being said, this scenario popped into my head --

Almost everyone that matters in your family knows you have a sisterwife. They DONT approve but they don't shun you, either. It's just something they don't speak of; they just treat her as a "dear family friend" who just happens to stay with you......

Wedding Rings

feeds@yuku.com (Shadowlily) — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 02:51:34 GMT

Disclaimer: I am not at all new to the poly way of thinking and am genuinely seeking a loving plural marriage, I desired something like this before I really knew there was a name for it or a community out there. I am, however, new to some of the terms. If I say the wrong thing, gently point it out, but have grace with one of the newer gals on the forums.

Here's the situation:
I have spoken at length with several families and two have requested to meet me. One that I am more...