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Registered User Posts: 790 01/09/09 11:09 AM Administrator	Tags : None Everyone knows SisterWives supports TruthBearer's vision of Love-not-Force. We believe that a husband and wife(ves) should both agree and seek out a wife together. No husband or wife should force their spouse to accept polygamy. Being poly is not a duty. It is not a requirement. We have heard of men and women who try to justify affairs by trying to be poly and then blame the wronged wife or husband because they refuse to accept it. We have heard of people who lusted after another person and used poly as an excuse to pursue them. Some people think they don't need their spouse to even know about a new wife. They just bring one home and surprise the wife. Then they blame the wife when things go wrong. Some use God. Though it may be acceptable in God's eyes, it is not required but to hear some men it seems God is telling every man to be poly but failing to pass the message on to the wife? Or if the wife says God is telling them no, they say the wife is lieing and disobeying God. Maybe the man is seeking after the flesh? Some just decide they want another spouse and give the wife or husband an ultimatum--accept poly or leave. Then they blame the wronged spouse for their failed marriage. All these things are a form or force. Poly fidelity. Trust. Communication. Honesty. Together. This is what a modern poly marriage is made of. Two people decide together to to find another wife and then work together to accomplish it. They love each other and bring a new wife into a loving marriage. And if one doesn't want to be poly? Then they don't become poly. Keep in mind, your first priority is to your husband or wife, not to a potential or a future spouse you want. Don't sacrifice your wife and what you have for a potential or someone you haven't even met. Love them. The divorce rate is over 50%. You are lucky to hold on one spouse in this world. Many are not. Cherish them and share the rest of your life together. Think about. You have found someone you love and loves you and will spend the rest of their lives with you. You won't be happy with that unless your poly? Spending the rest of your life with someone who loves and cherishes you isn't good enough? Really? Love not Force. Not everyone will be poly just like not everyone will be married and that is okay... Because you are loved and love them. Think about it. Antony Kissing girls is a goodness. It beats the hell out of card games. Valentine Michael Smith - Stranger in a Strange Land Last Edited By: Antony 01/09/09 11:57 AM. Edited 2 times.
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SteadFastLove	I totally Agree	#1	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 4740 01/09/09 12:22 PM ezOP	Antony, I am so grateful that you are our husband! You walk with God and lead our home by making each of us wives equal companions and partners with you. You say its because God made us from your rib, and not your feet, so you can walk on us, nor your head so we can lead you, but from your side, where we can love and work together. I love this belief. You always tell us the one thing that you love about each of us is our minds and the ability we have to think for ourselves. You love the fact that we help you lead our home. I love the fact that you let us. From your leadership, which says you lead with me as my companion and my equal, Jadez brought me to you as a wife, and she embraced polygamy. You never asked for another wife. You never even mentioned it; in fact, the idea was first brought to you by Jadez. Because of your gentle love which allows us to help lead our life together, I brought to you Sarah Eve as a wife because I fully embraced polygamy. You never asked for another wife. You never even said it would be good to have another. In fact, you said we were enough, but then, I still brought you Sarah Eve. Why? Because, I feel that you love me and Jadez with every thing that is you because you ALWAYS put our feelings first. You consider us your equals. You work with us. Your treatment of us showed us how you wanted to be treated. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!" Because of this, we love and respect you. You are our husband. You have three wives, not because you forced Jadez or me, but because we gave each new wife to you as a gift for the love and consideration you have given to us as your equals. You showed us so much love, consideration, and respect that our love was able to multiply to allow even our selves to love other wives. The more love is given away the more it multiples. We love you. Blessings, SteadFastLove, Jadez, and Sarah Eve Helping others to work towards a polygynous mindset more and more everyday! Last Edited By: SteadFastLove 01/09/09 12:27 PM. Edited 1 time.
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SweetWitch77		#2	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 26 01/09/09 01:43 PM	I am sitting here with tears in my eyes because this is what I wanted, I knew my husband loved me, knew he loved Starr and I didn't want to make him choose. I had looked into and thought poly was for me. I still do but after all the hurt, the pain and the actions to make me feel like less than I am I don't know if it is for me anymore. I don't know if my marriage is salvageable but I do know I don't want to force it. If it works it works because through hard work and compromised it will get better. If it doesn't work then it is in the hands of fate and was never ment to be. I am so grateful I found this site and the people on it. I know I have not been active, but I have found the support and love given here helpful and very refreshing. Thank you SteadFast for chatting with me last night. I am going home in a couple hours and not leaving again till a real decision is made and my children are with me.
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SteadFastLove		#3	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 4740 01/09/09 02:56 PM ezOP	You are most welcome Rani. My heart and prayers go out to you. Blessings To You and Yours, SteadFastLove Helping others to work towards a polygynous mindset more and more everyday!
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Hana Akemi		#4	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 246 01/12/09 03:48 AM	The other thing that makes me mad and really really sad is when there is a wife who is open to poly and quite willing to actively help her husband seek another wife, and in the process he finds a woman that he decides is "the one" and despite strong objections, relationship issues between the woman and his wife or whatever, he pursues the new woman with no regard for his wife's feelings or his relationship with her, which should come first no matter what. They always find ways to justify their selfish choice to pursue - 'You're just being unreasonable', 'It's your fault that the two of you aren't getting along(to the wife)', 'But I'm in love with her, it feels right to me', 'I'm the head of our family and I don't need your approval to make this decision' and my all time favourite.... 'This is what God has chosen for our marriage, you're just in rebellion'. The reality is, that if he had the best interest of their marriage and relationship in his heart - he would never risk damaging it to pursue another and he would seek to protect his wife from the malicious behaviour of others. Under the spotlight of true, pure and unselfish love, his behaviour is exposed for what it really is - - an attempt to justify selfishness. That is not the sort of 'love' that my Saviour (or my husband) has shown me - - he would never decide that someone else was 'more worthy' of his love, protection and attention and he would never trade me in. I'm so grateful that on this poly journey, I know without a doubt, that my husband will always put our relationship before any "potential". Smiles! Hana
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SteadFastLove		#5	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 4740 01/12/09 09:35 AM ezOP	Very well said Hana! Helping others to work towards a polygynous mindset more and more everyday!
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Eillem		#6	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 1264 01/14/09 07:49 PM	As followers of Christian-based polygyny (for the most part) or those who have at least the understanding that the 1st wife must be considered before any 'potential', it is still a fact that those who do not have a firm, strong belief in doing what is right, will continue to wreak havoc in the lives of those who love them. E! Last Edited By: Eillem 03/03/09 06:58 PM. Edited 1 time.
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Megan		#7	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 66 03/01/09 12:21 PM	This is really sweet and it's what I'm hoping for, too!
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clanfather	Kindness Love Wisdom	#8	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 2 05/21/09 10:13 AM	One and only? Better than, or 'the best? how about, equally beautiful, equally respected, equally covered, but no favoritism. That is something akin to a schoolyard mentality where immature children must be cajoled and humored into submission. Not for me and mine, Aho
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Eillem		#9	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 1264 06/07/09 09:50 PM	Human nature MUST always be considered - which unfortunately dictates that human beings DO have favorites. BUT, again, as we see in the love we have for our children: everyone is different. Each person has a different view to offer. Men have the ability to love each woman for who she is and what she 'gives' him. As long as he is gives the assurance to each wife that she is SPECIAL in her own way to him, then...no problem. Am I wrong? E!
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clanfather		#10	[url]	[-]
Registered User Posts: 2 06/09/09 09:57 PM	I don' like the connotation of a new sister wife being brought into the family and offered up as a gift to daddy 'cause he is such a good fellow and deserves a little treat or whatever. It just smacks of immaturity and game-playing. Shouldn't the process be more deep and juicy that that example? If a woman wants another wife in the sacred circle, it is obviously self-serving in many ways. For a husband to choose to belove and bewife second or third woman, there must be true love between all of the members of the family, including the children , present and future. FROM WHAT i HAVE SEEN AND EXPERIENCED, the medicine which makes this magic live and endure, only comes through to us from the higher planes. Edgar Cayce has a lot to say about relationships and the Karmic involvement we all incarnate with on this lovely planet. If a marriage between more than two evolves and succed's in this hostile environment of mind control , possessiveness, and materialism, I believe that it is only possible because it has been planned and blessed by the divine mind, perhaps way before we even imagined such a thing. I do not believe that I could have bucked the establishment and choosen the alternative and Rightous Way, without the blessing of Great Spirit. I am only a most unfortunate and lowly beggar in many ways, but, spiritually and emotionally, I be rich beyond the imaginings of many who would not dare to be so different. I am raising children who also dare to follow the love and the divine whisper. I live in silence regarding my beliefs, but it is good to share these thoughts tonight, with my kindred Relations, A ho Mitakuye Oyasin William LongShadow
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