I've heard it said, "When Godly men put God first and believe in polygamy and that God wants them to be polygamous, then the first wives
leave."
This is definitely not always true. Jadez, our sisterwife and Antony's first, did not turn on him nor leave him. If a husband covenanted with his wife to "forsake all others", then, he is truly stuck. Unless his first wife, let's him out of his original covenant with her of forsaking all others (which she is not commanded to do), then he must truly forsake "ALL others". Otherwise, he is a covenant breaker. According to God, covenant breakers are not following God and are condemned.
I've also heard men say, "God commanded I be a polygamist. David did it, so must I." However, just because David did something does not mean we must. David committed murder, so I suppose we should all do the same, right? David also caused Bathsheba to commit adultery against Uriah; thus, David committed adultery as well because he did so with a married woman. Thus, all men should do the same? I think not! Some men are meant to have one wife, and others are meant to have more. While still there are some, God intends for them to be single.
God has His will that He intends for each of us and for each family. When God directs a husband in a given direction, he will also direct the wife. A husband must minister to his wife. God blessed David with his wives. God will blesses each husband as well as long as you are good stewards of what God has already gifted to you. David lost a child because he committed murder and adultery. If a husband's will to have more wives is more important that the one wife God already blessed him with and more importan then the covenant he made with his one wife, then of course he will lose that wife because he broke his terms of the covenant. She is no longer bound by hers because he broke his original agreement. However, he should not lay blame on her: he needs to take the blame upon himself for bad stewardship and for breaking his covenant. Christ took our blame upon himself because he loved us so much. This is such a loving example of what Christ expects of husbands as well. When husbands lay blame on their wives for the downfall of their marriage openly and publically, they do not demonstrate true Godly love because they defame her. Husbands need to take responsibilty for their actions that caused their marriages to fail.
Can a wife agree to try to think about polygamy? She sure can, but she can also change her mind if it does not seem to work out for her. A husband does not want a jealous wife because too much jealousy and a husband will either lose his wife or both for that fact. I know for a fact that a woman can see that polygamy is biblical or even logical, but they can also feel so insecure that emotionally they cannot see it for their self nor can they handle it. I knew a wife who accepted it because she did not want to lose her husband because she loved him so much; however, she was not emotionally prepared for it. She became so depressed. She stayed in the marriage, but she was not happy. Is this what a supposedly "Godly" husband realy wants for his wife that he loves?
Yes, there may be times that a wife causes a marriage to fail because she commits adultery or abuse: otherwise, if the husband breaks his covenant with his wife with out her permission, then she is free to go. He stands in fault: not her.
Blessings to You,
SteadFastLove
This is definitely not always true. Jadez, our sisterwife and Antony's first, did not turn on him nor leave him. If a husband covenanted with his wife to "forsake all others", then, he is truly stuck. Unless his first wife, let's him out of his original covenant with her of forsaking all others (which she is not commanded to do), then he must truly forsake "ALL others". Otherwise, he is a covenant breaker. According to God, covenant breakers are not following God and are condemned.
I've also heard men say, "God commanded I be a polygamist. David did it, so must I." However, just because David did something does not mean we must. David committed murder, so I suppose we should all do the same, right? David also caused Bathsheba to commit adultery against Uriah; thus, David committed adultery as well because he did so with a married woman. Thus, all men should do the same? I think not! Some men are meant to have one wife, and others are meant to have more. While still there are some, God intends for them to be single.
God has His will that He intends for each of us and for each family. When God directs a husband in a given direction, he will also direct the wife. A husband must minister to his wife. God blessed David with his wives. God will blesses each husband as well as long as you are good stewards of what God has already gifted to you. David lost a child because he committed murder and adultery. If a husband's will to have more wives is more important that the one wife God already blessed him with and more importan then the covenant he made with his one wife, then of course he will lose that wife because he broke his terms of the covenant. She is no longer bound by hers because he broke his original agreement. However, he should not lay blame on her: he needs to take the blame upon himself for bad stewardship and for breaking his covenant. Christ took our blame upon himself because he loved us so much. This is such a loving example of what Christ expects of husbands as well. When husbands lay blame on their wives for the downfall of their marriage openly and publically, they do not demonstrate true Godly love because they defame her. Husbands need to take responsibilty for their actions that caused their marriages to fail.
Can a wife agree to try to think about polygamy? She sure can, but she can also change her mind if it does not seem to work out for her. A husband does not want a jealous wife because too much jealousy and a husband will either lose his wife or both for that fact. I know for a fact that a woman can see that polygamy is biblical or even logical, but they can also feel so insecure that emotionally they cannot see it for their self nor can they handle it. I knew a wife who accepted it because she did not want to lose her husband because she loved him so much; however, she was not emotionally prepared for it. She became so depressed. She stayed in the marriage, but she was not happy. Is this what a supposedly "Godly" husband realy wants for his wife that he loves?
Yes, there may be times that a wife causes a marriage to fail because she commits adultery or abuse: otherwise, if the husband breaks his covenant with his wife with out her permission, then she is free to go. He stands in fault: not her.
Blessings to You,
SteadFastLove
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