After living the life for almost 10 years now as one of three wives of a wonderful man, I still find it very important and necessary to remind myself daily to
think with a polygynous mindset. In our current society, we are accustomed to thinking monogamously. As individuals, we are use to thinking about ourselves,
and marriage forces us to think about someone else, our spouses, and as we have children, parenthood forces us to think about these children. We do not just
think about one of our children, but we think about each one individually and as a whole.
The polygynous mindset says this, "Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be like minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God." (Philippians 2:2-6)
In polygyny, a sisterwife/wife cannot just think about her own marriage with her husband, but she must be concerned with the relationship and marriage that each of her sisterwives hold with the husband and with her individual relationship with each of her sisterwives. As a poly family, we are not alone because we have sisterwives. If one relationship fails, then all can fail. There is not just one relationship at stake here. Each relationship needs to be nurtured by all parties. In a monogamous household, wife and husband are concerned only about that one relationship unless of course they have children. However, it is different in a poly household. In a polygynous household, many relationships need to be considered and nurtured, and the more wives that exist the more relationships there need to be nurtured and maintained. Here is the scenario for a two wife household. In a two wife household, each of these relationships must be nurtured and maintained:
1. Wife 1 and husband,
2. Wife 2 and husband,
3. Wife 1 (sisterwife) and wife 2 (sisterwife),
4. Wife 1, husband, and wife 2 (how all three interact with one another.)
As children are added, then each adult needs to maintain and nurture a relationship with each individual child and then as a family. It grows more complicated.
A sisterwife needs to be concerned about her sisterwife's relationship with their husband, and she needs to be highly concerned about her relationship with each sisterwife. If sisterwives cannot or do not get along, then a poly family will fall apart. Sisterwives need to be friends who love one another and care about each other. They need to be in one accord, of one mind, like minded, and esteeming the other better than themselves. Sisterwives need not look on her own things, but every sisterwife also on the things of the other because she is equal with her sisterwife and does not think it robbery to be so.
Blessings,
SteadFastLove
The polygynous mindset says this, "Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be like minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God." (Philippians 2:2-6)
In polygyny, a sisterwife/wife cannot just think about her own marriage with her husband, but she must be concerned with the relationship and marriage that each of her sisterwives hold with the husband and with her individual relationship with each of her sisterwives. As a poly family, we are not alone because we have sisterwives. If one relationship fails, then all can fail. There is not just one relationship at stake here. Each relationship needs to be nurtured by all parties. In a monogamous household, wife and husband are concerned only about that one relationship unless of course they have children. However, it is different in a poly household. In a polygynous household, many relationships need to be considered and nurtured, and the more wives that exist the more relationships there need to be nurtured and maintained. Here is the scenario for a two wife household. In a two wife household, each of these relationships must be nurtured and maintained:
1. Wife 1 and husband,
2. Wife 2 and husband,
3. Wife 1 (sisterwife) and wife 2 (sisterwife),
4. Wife 1, husband, and wife 2 (how all three interact with one another.)
As children are added, then each adult needs to maintain and nurture a relationship with each individual child and then as a family. It grows more complicated.
A sisterwife needs to be concerned about her sisterwife's relationship with their husband, and she needs to be highly concerned about her relationship with each sisterwife. If sisterwives cannot or do not get along, then a poly family will fall apart. Sisterwives need to be friends who love one another and care about each other. They need to be in one accord, of one mind, like minded, and esteeming the other better than themselves. Sisterwives need not look on her own things, but every sisterwife also on the things of the other because she is equal with her sisterwife and does not think it robbery to be so.
Blessings,
SteadFastLove
